I love when people use the term or say “oh, you’re that mom.” I totally am “that mom”, because it can be used in so many different forms.
I’m that mom that makes her sweet husband and daughter get ready and take family photos once a year in the dead of summer with extreme heat and a cesspool of mosquitos. But I am that mom that wants to be able to have photographs of all the stages of my children’s life and my marriage. I am a big fan of candids and take hundreds of them a month, but I also really like professional, because candids show the silliness and love of a family, but professional, well is exactly that– professional.
I’m that mom that spends countless hours planning the perfect birthday party for her child, which I will be telling you all about it in a couple weeks. But my mother always put together the best birthdays and I remember every single one of them fondly. I wanted the same for my kids. My husband doesn’t understand the pressure I put on myself or why I spend the amount of money on it that we can’t really afford. But I want my daughter to feel special, and I’m not saying someone needs to throw a huge party to achieve that. But my mother did and as a kid I loved it. I also just thoroughly enjoy throwing parties, I love to decorate and love to cook food for these events. I also love seeing the enjoyment had from not only Scarlett, but her friends and family too.
I’m that mom when the first time Scarlett fell and bled I cried more than she did. As parents we absolutely hate to see our children in pain and I am no exception to the rule. I was bad at the beginning, but we noticed the more we reacted the more she felt the need to react, so now we celebrate and clap when she falls to hopefully save her from some tears.
On the other side of the spectrum I am also that mom who doesn’t care if Scarlett gets dirty or grabs a pacifier that fell on the floor and puts it in her mouth. I’ve never cared about putting bibs on, because in reality she will get dirty no matter what kind of bib she wears to prevent it. And sure when I was a new mom I was a freak about germs, but I now know there is no use in trying to always have a clean paci or whatever, because I have already caught her voluntarily putting disgusting things in her mouth, that a clean paci is the least of my worries. I mean germs are good to help build a healthy immune system, right?
I’m that mom that quit her part time night job, which we need because I couldn’t stand being away from both my husband and child and missing out on dinner and bedtime. I will now be working a full-time day job and see her less, so my thinking really isn’t smart. But I’d rather work when my husband works and miss out on one on one time with Scarlett, then miss out on time spent as a whole family.
I am that mom that no matter what kind of silly quirks I do I can only hope I am building lasting memories for my child so that she can look back on it and know she had the best childhood ever, whether it be a family vacation we can’t afford or sitting at home watching music videos on Youtube.
And if you are the opposite of me in all of the things I listed above, there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. I truly believe if your child is happy, healthy, and knows love there is no wrong way to be “that mom”.